Saturday, July 03, 2010

Parenting ....

In my little world, I used to think that the most difficult job in the world is people managing job. I dislike to be a people manager, as I find it tough to manage human being, everyone is different and have different needs , style and etc etc etc .... that is why I try to remain in the technical career path..... Since I've started my diploma class, now I will rephrased, I think the most difficult job in the world is wanting to be a good parent. Parenting is really not easy at all. No one has a manual to learn the right or wrong, or to go to school to learn how to be parent, everyone learn from the real life experience, that is also why parent is to make mistake , and the child should forgive the parents too. Today in my class, we leart that when parent decides to have babies, they really need to be serious and must take time to spend time with the baby from the day he/she is born. From baby to infant ( 1 to 2 yrs old ) - they develop this 'attachment' - there are 4 types of attachement - 'secure' ( positive attachment) - the baby feels safe and like to be with the parent , or the caretakers ( those whom he/she trust ) , 'avoidance' , 'resistant', 'disorganized' attachment ( all these 3 are negative attachment ), as parent , when you have babies, your job is to make sure you give them verbal , non verbal responses, listen to them , as well as present physically for them, they need to be touched, hugged, loved for. If the babies developed the 'secure' attachment - eg - at age of 1 to 2, when the baby just want to cling on to the mother, when others want to carry the baby , he/she cries ---> this is very positive, the baby has develop a 'secure' bonding with the caretaker. This baby will grow up positively.
Psychological study showed that most countries has > 60% of babies growing up having the secure attachment. To all the parents out there , SYABAS , WORK HARDER !!

1 comment:

Kiasu-Ching said...

if only the parents care about children more than money ..then your theory may work! then hor dun forget no money how to raise kids in capitalism world? settle for something simple and non glam?? U must be kidding me! Ask your professor! Say is easy!