positive emotion

In class, my professor asked us to list down 'emotion'. We gave her the list - happy, sad, stress, envy, jealous, angry, nervous.... Then professor asked us, in the list , how many was positive emotion ??? the answer was ONE only ( Happy ). Then she told us that reseach showed that the positive vs negative emotion is always 1:3, means among 4 emotion list , 1 is positive, the rest 3 is negative. She reminded us the power of being positive. Usually, most people naturally thinks of negative emotion , or negative things, and we emphasize less on positive emotion or positive behaviours....she reminded us that being a teacher , we need to be more careful, teacher ought to be more observant and praise the children /students when they've done positive behaviours or tasks. Eg when a student has long hair , we may commented negatively on his/her long hair , likewise, when he/she has short hair - did we ever comment the short hair - which could be a better hairstyle ??? sometimes , kids just have to do the negative things to get our attention .... hmm, becareful... start by saying good things about others , OK :)

Parenting ....

In my little world, I used to think that the most difficult job in the world is people managing job. I dislike to be a people manager, as I find it tough to manage human being, everyone is different and have different needs , style and etc etc etc .... that is why I try to remain in the technical career path..... Since I've started my diploma class, now I will rephrased, I think the most difficult job in the world is wanting to be a good parent. Parenting is really not easy at all. No one has a manual to learn the right or wrong, or to go to school to learn how to be parent, everyone learn from the real life experience, that is also why parent is to make mistake , and the child should forgive the parents too. Today in my class, we leart that when parent decides to have babies, they really need to be serious and must take time to spend time with the baby from the day he/she is born. From baby to infant ( 1 to 2 yrs old ) - they develop this 'attachment' - there are 4 types of attachement - 'secure' ( positive attachment) - the baby feels safe and like to be with the parent , or the caretakers ( those whom he/she trust ) , 'avoidance' , 'resistant', 'disorganized' attachment ( all these 3 are negative attachment ), as parent , when you have babies, your job is to make sure you give them verbal , non verbal responses, listen to them , as well as present physically for them, they need to be touched, hugged, loved for. If the babies developed the 'secure' attachment - eg - at age of 1 to 2, when the baby just want to cling on to the mother, when others want to carry the baby , he/she cries ---> this is very positive, the baby has develop a 'secure' bonding with the caretaker. This baby will grow up positively.
Psychological study showed that most countries has > 60% of babies growing up having the secure attachment. To all the parents out there , SYABAS , WORK HARDER !!

the best color for a classroom or school

Hi Hi .... today I am going to share with you the best color to motivate students or someone to focus on study, that means this color is best for classroom or school or study room .... any guesses ? I guessed green and salah. My teacher said the research done revealed that 'Peach' or 'Pink' color are the color which motivate and encourage positive learning.... No wonder la , these days the public schools in Msia - most of them are painted in pink. Even one of the NASOM center ( NASOM is the center for Autism children ) is painted in pink.

Fellow readers, if you are thinking how to encourage and motivate your children to study more, to be able to focus more - then try paint the room in peach or pink yea :)

Child Development - tips

Many of my friends asked me about my class. Instead of repeating the answers, guess I use this channel to answer, hopefully it is more efficient for me and for my readers :) ...

Bahija completed her first module with A+ , hippie....now I am on 2nd module. 2nd module is a reseach paper on various types of Learning Disabilities such as Autism, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, ADHD ( Hyperactive )...followed by a written exam on the various teaching techniques. This module is interesting as this is the core of the class , where I get to learn the various disabilities, and how we can introduce the intervention programmes for the special kids , with the goal to help them live a better life.

My lectures are the various specialists such as education specialist, Occupational Therapist, Special Learning teacher, councellor and etc etc. They shared many interesting tips with us.... some of them are applicable to normal child as well .... so I'll share some here too :)

Tip No 1 :
young baby - caretaker spoon feed the baby with food , when there is some leftover food beside the baby's mouth , NEVER EVER use the spoon to scoop the food. It is a proven reseach that this action may caused damage to the muscles around the mouth... young babies, they are growing every day , their muscle, their brain - everything is growing ...so for a young baby - there are muscle around the mouth, it is sensitive, and we shouldn't use hard object to spoil it...
( my mum always did this to me and all my siblings last time - luckily we turned out OK eh -hehe ) .... The reseach said that for some special kids with speech problem , this is a NO NO action. But then, none of us are aware mah , so damage could have been done lor ...
Parent, next time when you are feeding your young baby , spoon is to put food into the baby's mouth, to clean the baby's mouth, use a napkin or handkerchief and wipe SOFTLY , be gentle

Tip No 2 :
Early sign of detection for a special kid .... from 3rd mths onwards, a baby should develop eye contact , so when you are pointing to a direction, the baby's eyes should follow your hand .... and not the head. If the baby keeps moving the head , instead of moving the eye balls , be alert...

Lastly, we should be extremely blessed and happy that our babies are healthy and growing up happily and hope that one day , the baby turn into an useful adult - a great leader, a great contributor to the society. However, in the event that the baby is a special child, the role of the parent is not to be in denial and hopeless... today, there are so many successful special kids who have overcomed, and they are well known, living in a normal or even better life then you and me , contributing to the society. So what is the difference here ??? the difference is the parent is supportive and start to introduce early intervention programmes for the special child, and that intervention programme starts as early as from baby age .....

child development crawling

Tip no 1 , when your baby learn to crawl , by all means - encourage him/her to crawl. Don't stop the baby from this action , or replace this action with sitting in the walker or others.... at the crawling stage, the baby is developing his/her brain ....it's a very important child development stage. The more the baby crawl , the better it is. Observe their coordination too, it shld be bilateral movements of the arms and legs, right arm , left leg. If you see right arm right leg - hmm, please keep observe and if need to , check with the doctor. Some parents are very proud , over joy when their babies didn't crawl and terus learned to walk or stand, Today I learnt that there are babies who skipped the crawling stage. Well, when this happened, it should be a major concern for the parent - must keep an eye and if need to , bring to the doctor for immediate checkup - chances are these baby has some brain disorder liow lor ....