dinner with friends

my friend organized a blind date for me , so I went and met the candidate.....I enjoyed the dinner, the company...then the friends left us , tinggal me and him, oh oh - I panicked , what to talk leh, luckily it's late , the restaurant started to switch off one light, so we had good excuse to go home :P ..... I guess a lot of my friends will say that I am way too picky, I want to say no , and I hope I am right lor. Those who found the other half and happily married, are those super lucky folks lor... some how Bahija hasn't receive that kind of luck yet ... for this new friend, he is very elder than I am , his era is different than mine. I don't know if we will click or not, right now, I also don't know what to do .... soon , friends will knock on my door chasing for updates and feedback, may be the new friend will also follow up .... at this moment, I am sort of 'fan' , I am not in 'sweet moment' hoping that he will call and ask him out lor ....aiiii , life is complicated eh ....

p/s : may be I need to go attend relationship counseling :(

Hyperactive .....

We always read about the bad things , the horrible things done by the mat rempit....rupa-rupanya all of them are with ADHD. What is ADHD ? ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. The experts said sometimes it is very hard to differentiate the normal children and the ADHD children , as thesedays, normal children also can be very hyper...it's challenging to diagnose and confirm a kid with ADHD. We see the result of the ADHD children who weren't intervened, when they become adult, they are like mat rempit, did things wrong yet they didn't realized, do not know about the bad consequences etc etc .... my lecturer feels sad for them.
Bahija is now clue-less liow, learnt many theories , many diff types of learning disabilities ...theory is always theory .... when we are to deal with the children , everyone is different and every time with them is different too , don't know what to expert out of them. Teacher has to be creative in teaching , gosh , that 'creativity' is something I don't really have lor - heeee.... okie la , gtg zzzz, tomorrow kena wake up early go special kid ministry ...

Happy Holidays & Xin Nian Kuai Ler !!

Hi Hi all ..... hipppie , it's TGIF and we are off for Chinese New Year :) .... I am so looking forward to the break. Mum and sister will be going to Egypt, I will stay home one week to take care of teddy bear....that will be a great time for me to catch up with sleep, rest, class assignment and reseach, closing of my ledger and accounting etc etc .... see, one week break - still tak cukup punya , nevertheless, better than none.

This year, I received my first Tiger ang pow from a tiger leh, hehehe...Sanguine Queen gave me an angpow. I also wanted to thank Sanguine Queen for the free shipment of my windows 7. During the CNY break, I also need to upgrade my PC from vista to windows 7 , and test the customer tools , if all OK , then I can safely migrate my notebook , I'm not vista fan la , vista really kuku one ...aiii , asyik closed my windows - gila betul !

Oh, a friend from US came back with 2 kids , I can't wait to meet them.

To all my readers, Safe journey to wherever you are going , Happy Holidays , Happy Blessed Healthy Tiger Year :) ...

entrepreneur experience ....

Last 2 days , went to attend entrepreneur training. It's interesting as in learning new things, being entrepreneur is very different than being in a 9 to 5 corporate job. It's a lot a lot a lot of work , a lot a lot of hard work too, not easy to be one. Bahija is happy that she has the opportunity to attend the classes, to learn something new from the industry folks .... all these are made possible because of my sanguine queen :) , sanguine queen is a dynamic, futuristic person, her active brain is very business minded. To me , she is destined to be a good entrepreneur. I tag along with her , learning happily ...hope we'll make it a fruitful journey.

the best color for a classroom or school

Hi Hi .... today I am going to share with you the best color to motivate students or someone to focus on study, that means this color is best for classroom or school or study room .... any guesses ? I guessed green and salah. My teacher said the research done revealed that 'Peach' or 'Pink' color are the color which motivate and encourage positive learning.... No wonder la , these days the public schools in Msia - most of them are painted in pink. Even one of the NASOM center ( NASOM is the center for Autism children ) is painted in pink.

Fellow readers, if you are thinking how to encourage and motivate your children to study more, to be able to focus more - then try paint the room in peach or pink yea :)

my early primary school era....

I was born in the 70's .... early 70s - could be the era of kindergarden being introduced in my country. My parent didn't send me to kindergarden , no money and mum didn't know too ... When I went to standard one , all I could remembered was - teacher kept scolding me, every day I never failed standing in front of the classroom - hands carried the textbook - it's like a punishment for not knowing things or not doing the homework. One time, my standard one teacher met my mother, I was standing next to mum... that time I was 7 yrs old, today I'm 37 yrs old , yet I could rememberd her statement well : "Mrs, your daughter is hopelss, very stupid" ..... wah lau eh , that was such a harsh statement on me , a young little girl leh. standard 1 to 3 , I remained 'stupid' , every nite cried at home when sisters all forced me to study , or helped revised my homeworks .... I cried a lot back then , until my first brother in law nicknamed me 'ham pou chin' ( in cantonese ). Then entah what happened, suddenly standard 4 - I got transferred into the 'A' class - hipppie , at least tukar kulit liow , upgraded to the 'not stupid' class , haaa. I think the reason I was not able to catch up was that I didn't attend kindergarden whereas other students did. In standard one, while I was just started to learn A, B, C - most of the rest already learned this , and teacher also expected that I knew A, B, C .....
talking about being left out and being labelled as 'stupid'. Today, if the family is poor and the children cannot attend kindergardens, I could imagine their early primary school lives could be the same as mine, very the poor thing hor ...

The role of a teacher is very significant, he or she ought to be sensitive to the students. Plus a teacher should not labelled and used the word 'stupid' , everyone is different , everyone has his or her gifts and no one is 'stupid' ..... aiiiii

Dyslexia - the hidden learning disability

Dyslexia is one of the most common disabilities. Children with dyslexia have problem learning because they have trouble understanding words, sentences and paragraphs, thus not able to spell or read as well. Let me share with you who has this disabily too :-

Leonardo da Vinci - artist, scientiest
Thomas Edison - inventor
Lee Kuan Yew - Singapore Minister Mentor
Albert Einstein - scientist
Muhammad Ali - boxing champion
Cher - singer
Tom Cruise, Keanu Reeves, Orlando Bloom - actor
Steven Spielberg - film director and producer
Walt Disney - film producer
Agatha Christie - writer

Wow, those folks are so successful , aren't they ? When these children go to school, the teachers need to introduce intervention programmes to teach them. Their brain cannot recognize words, thus use pictures. If we need to teach them 'apple' - show them physical apple or a picture of apple - their brain will register apple. The next time when they see the word 'apple' , they actually imagine the fruit apple , and that is how they comprehend and start to learn and speak...

Likewise, if the teacher is not sensitive or aware , force the dyslexia child to read the words or paragraphs, these children will be lost , at the end, teacher will think that they are 'stupid' , 'slow' ....then the children develops low self-esteem and eventually many more problems along the way. Dyslexia children are more artistic , they are usually good in drawing , imagination - thus you can see the celebraties list above - it's unusual to find dyslexia child being an accountant :). To me, among all the disabilities, this is one of the easiest to intervene , meaning a dyslexia child if is being diagnozed early and intervention programme is introduced early, the child can overcome and be a very successful creative joy to the family and society.

Sadly, in our country - the study found that most of the people who are in jail today - most of them are with dyslexia and they were not brought up 'properly' from young , they could have been labelled 'stupid' , 'slow' , 'hopeless' for the rest of their lives and ended up in jail. Padahal, those group of folks could have been another Msia Boleh 'Steven Spielberg' .....

being poor ....

Today, my classmate who used to be working in the corporate world, she was a Project Manager in one of the big insurance company, quits and be a special kid teacher in Mont Kiara. Today, she kept pouring out her 'pain', being a teacher is very low pay, after months into this line, now, she seriously feel the pain and being in a 'poor' stage. She said being noble is one thing, but being able to go thru life with money is one thing, right now, she needs to look into giving tuitions , to earn extra pocket money... Aiii, I know what she meant. I salute her courage , at least she took the step forward and doing it.

My class is filled with many good hearted folks from all walks of life , I can see that they are passionate and compassion , and really want to make a difference being a special kid teacher. Imagine if our education system or public schools are filled with passionate teacher like them , that would be so wonderful. But I need to stress is - with better paycheck of course.

I have this dream of running a special kid center, it is still a dream now as it is NATO - No Action Talk Only, today , I still cannot quit my secular job being an IT consultant, and jump right into caring community work - reason is I cannot survive the 'poorer' lifestyle yet. Having said that , if I keep saying I cannot I cannot , then it will end with 'I cannot' .... for now, at least I have started to lay some foundations eg property investments as my passive income, getting help and organize my own household issue, try to stay healthy so that I can do more , spending less time in secular world and trying to increase more time in community work, trying to adapt to a simplier lifestyle - such as less starbucks , more 3 in 1 coffee or mamak coffee , less branded shopping and more F.O.S shopping, know where to get good bargain , cook and eat more at home .... reflect back on my life journey so far , I think I have changed quite a bit and slowly adapting, the Lord has slowly opens the right doors and guiding me towards the right path. All this takes time and preparation, I don't know where I'll be landed, plan can change instantly , but for now, I am just going to enjoy the blessing and the ups and downs journey ! If I don't try , I'd never know the outcome ....

Child Development - tips

Many of my friends asked me about my class. Instead of repeating the answers, guess I use this channel to answer, hopefully it is more efficient for me and for my readers :) ...

Bahija completed her first module with A+ , hippie....now I am on 2nd module. 2nd module is a reseach paper on various types of Learning Disabilities such as Autism, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, ADHD ( Hyperactive )...followed by a written exam on the various teaching techniques. This module is interesting as this is the core of the class , where I get to learn the various disabilities, and how we can introduce the intervention programmes for the special kids , with the goal to help them live a better life.

My lectures are the various specialists such as education specialist, Occupational Therapist, Special Learning teacher, councellor and etc etc. They shared many interesting tips with us.... some of them are applicable to normal child as well .... so I'll share some here too :)

Tip No 1 :
young baby - caretaker spoon feed the baby with food , when there is some leftover food beside the baby's mouth , NEVER EVER use the spoon to scoop the food. It is a proven reseach that this action may caused damage to the muscles around the mouth... young babies, they are growing every day , their muscle, their brain - everything is growing ...so for a young baby - there are muscle around the mouth, it is sensitive, and we shouldn't use hard object to spoil it...
( my mum always did this to me and all my siblings last time - luckily we turned out OK eh -hehe ) .... The reseach said that for some special kids with speech problem , this is a NO NO action. But then, none of us are aware mah , so damage could have been done lor ...
Parent, next time when you are feeding your young baby , spoon is to put food into the baby's mouth, to clean the baby's mouth, use a napkin or handkerchief and wipe SOFTLY , be gentle

Tip No 2 :
Early sign of detection for a special kid .... from 3rd mths onwards, a baby should develop eye contact , so when you are pointing to a direction, the baby's eyes should follow your hand .... and not the head. If the baby keeps moving the head , instead of moving the eye balls , be alert...

Lastly, we should be extremely blessed and happy that our babies are healthy and growing up happily and hope that one day , the baby turn into an useful adult - a great leader, a great contributor to the society. However, in the event that the baby is a special child, the role of the parent is not to be in denial and hopeless... today, there are so many successful special kids who have overcomed, and they are well known, living in a normal or even better life then you and me , contributing to the society. So what is the difference here ??? the difference is the parent is supportive and start to introduce early intervention programmes for the special child, and that intervention programme starts as early as from baby age .....

February liow

geee, as I mature in life, the year seem to pass by faster and faster and faster lah..... felt like I just celebrated my bday, went for turkey trip , new year ..... zooomed, January already gone, today is Feb 6 , CNY is next week .... then for all we know, Feb coming to an end too....

so many things to do .... heee, well, that is a good sign actually, life filled with tasks to accomplish is better than an idle boring life , so Bahija just has to plan and work on things accordingly...

End of Jan, I went to Shanghai and Hangzhou - it's a fantastic experience coz that was my FIRST BACKPACKING trip , as in no luxury coach, no luggage with wheels - everything on my own , carried backpack on my shoulder , walked and expected the unexpected :) ....thoroughly enjoyed the good company and fabulous trip....will blog about it when I have time and mood la,hee